Episode 161: How do I cope with the high and low days after narcissistic abuse?

It's very normal to feel emotionally blown apart after a relationship with a narcissist, and to struggle with days, or even moments, where you feel fine and then you feel incredibly low. One of the things that has helped me has been to realize that we are not our emotions, that emotions come and go, and that we can learn to become more of observers of our emotions instead of letting them drag us around. At the same time, it can help to realize that our emotions are there for a reason--that they have a message for us. And the stronger the emotion, the stronger the message. If we are feeling pain, that emotion, even though unpleasant, is our friend. It's there because it's a signal for us to avoid people that cause us pain. If we can reframe our understanding of that pain, and realize that it's trying to get a very important point across to us, then it can help to make that pain more tolerable.

Do you have a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath in your life, or think that you might? Are you in (or recently out of) of a relationship that you can only describe as crazy making, toxic, or like a lifetime TV movie? Then you are in the right place.

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