Better Biology, Better Sex

"Your doctor doesn't even know what the nerve innervation of the female genitalia is—which in 2022 is mind boggling." Today I speak with Dr. Rachel Rubin, a board-certified urologist and sexual medicine specialist. "I’m a boner doctor." To talk with her about the most common and serious sexual problems: Problems regarding libido, orgasm, arousal, and pain. And just how many simple and life-changing tools are available for you to take advantage of. "We used to think it was all in people’s heads. The truth is actually it’s not very often in people’s heads. It can be a very scary marker of future cardiovascular problems." Rachel is passionate about educating women—especially about how to take joy and pleasure in their bodies. "It is a VERY common thing in female patients. They’re disgusted by the sight of their own genitals. It’s a very universal, icky thing...how do we change that?" We discuss how important it is to be comfortable thinking in depth and talking in depth about our sexuality in order to untangle the painful knots that are bound to occur between couples even in healthy relationships. And I ask Dr. Rubin about the bias in the clinical counseling field to focus A LOT on psychological and emotional issues when it comes to low desire and low libido. "We hate the idea…we HATE the idea that a pill can boost a women’s sexual function. Because we want it ALL to be psychosocial." She has made it her mission to address fears people have about addressing the biology that underpins apathy toward sex. Love The Soul of Life and want to express your gratitude? Please consider becoming a financial supporter of this show.  Sign-up for my free "Quickstart Guide to IFS in 30 Minutes:" https://event.webinarjam.com/register/3/on5lnf1 Check out my FREE Mini-Course for couples, called Marriage Tune-Up: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHjcz6Ly2y9gr2mtMHIxu-fXXl8rE_PYJ Learn more about my 7-week, live, online basic mindfulness and IFS course for couples: https://souloflifeshow.com/mindful-marriage My Book, Love Under Repair: How to Save Your Marriage and Survive Couples Therapy https://amzn.to/2X3kPBL My Counseling Practice: https://keithmillercounseling.com