25 Things I Wish I'd Known Sooner

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Email me at [email protected] with any questions or take aways! For more, head over to: www.franexcell.com/ Things I Wish I’d Known Sooner   There are so many things I know now that, had I known sooner, would have saved me a lot of time, energy, heartache and stress.   We put ourselves through so much just in our own heads and it’s only on the other side of the growth that we get that amazing gift of hindsight and can look back and see with more clarity.   We can see the lessons.    We have the lightbulb moments.   When I started this podcast that was my biggest aim.    To help people see that it’s so possible for things to change.   So I thought i’d share 25 of my favourite things that I wish I had known sooner with you today.   It’s ok to love what you love. Other people will love it and you will find them.  Be your very own special brand of weird and embrace it.    School wasn’t set up to nurture ‘different’.  It doesn’t mean you’re wrong or not good enough, it usually means the opposite. When you read the autobiographies or pay attention to the stories of a lot of the most successful people around you’ll see the patterns. More often than not they were not in the popular crowd. They were the outcasts. The quiet ones or the people who didn’t fit in. Whatever people told you about who you were when you were young, it means nothing. What are YOU going to decide about who you are?   You have way more control over your life and outcomes than you believe.  We are ruled by our unconscious programming, but the more you decode it, the more in the drivers seat you are. Learn the inner workings of your SELF! It’s far more important than you realise.    Growth is always in the things you’re scared to do. Not the things you’re already great at.  Get excited about what’s on the other side. Sometimes the things we’re scared to do are exactly the things we need to do.    Friendships go in ebbs and flows. People come into and leave your life. It can be really sad but if you’re in a different stage of your friendship right now, it doesn’t mean it will always be that way. Either way it’s ok.    Spend less time with the people that make you feel not good enough and more time with the people who make you feel ‘you’. It’s never worth the pain of feeling like it’s not ok to be you and you’ll just reinforce that time and time again. Stick with the people who make you feel like sunshine!   Time with the people you love is not something to take for granted. Work and purpose are great, but not at the expense of time.    You can learn to regulate your emotions and rewire your brain and nervous system and when you do it will change your whole life!   Curiosity is a huge key to your own happiness. When you seek to understand yourself and other people, everything gets much clearer and less judgemental.    The people who are the most successful are the people who are the most comfortable being uncomfortable and the most ok with failing, making mistakes and getting things wrong. It’s more than ok to make mistakes!    Communication is a skill and one of the most important ones that you can learn.  Actively learn to listen and communicate.  So much of this is shut down when we’re young. It’s something the majority of us need to relearn as adults.   Fear has nothing to do with who we are as people. It’s not part of our identity. It’s a protection mechanism and when you learn the tools to regulate your nervous system, fear has no control over you.   Discomfort means growth is coming. You literally can’t have one without the other. It’s part of the process. You can absolutely learn to embrace that discomfort as a positive thing!   It’s impossible for everyone to like you. Stop trying to make them.    There are no fixed timelines for you to ‘make it’ or feel like you have your ‘stuff’ together.  Restart. Trust it can lead you somewhere great. It usually does.   It’s ok to take a break when you need one. In fact, it’s essential. Listen to your body.    Your thoughts influence your physiological reactions and vice vers leading directly to your actions. The quality of your thoughts correlate directly to the state of your nervous system and vice versa. Heal your nervous system, change your thoughts.   There’s no point holding on to regrets. Focus on what you learned and move on. There’s always something positive to find there and rumination doesn’t change anything.   It’s ok to change your mind ad decid you want or need something different.   Sometimes not getting what you want is a huge blessing in disguise and leads you somewhere far better.    Don’t compare yourself to anyone else and ignore nuance. There is SO much you don’t know about what or who you’re comparing yourself to. You are not comparing apples with apples. It’s an absolute waste of time. Just because someone SAYS they’re happy, doesn’t mean they are.    Know your values and make sure you live them.  Not living in alignment with your values is a sure fire path to unhappiness and anxiety.   Bad days and negative emotions are totally normal.    The simple things are often the most effective. Don’t overcomplicate things when you don’t have to.   You are and always have been good enough.   There are probably a million more but these are some of my favourites that have well and truly stuck with me. I hope they stick with you too.   Fx

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Fran Excell is a success mindset mentor who helps business owners overcome stress and self sabotage, so they can get off the emotional rollercoaster, get back their time & feel more in control! Fran draws on her training in Applied Neuroscience Coaching, NLP, EFT, Positive Psychology, Emotional Intelligence and other trauma informed mind body modalities, along with her own research and life experience to give you the tools to break through what’s holding you back and get out your own way by showing you how to let go of negative thinking, unconscious habits and limiting beliefs so you finally have the confidence and tools to fulfil your full potential and achieve anything YOU want to. If you struggle with negativity, self-doubt, procrastination, lack of organisation, confidence or need some help just getting yourself to do those things you reeeeeally want to but just can’t seem to then this is the place for you! "I’ve been where you are and through YEARS of tried and tested methods, years of studying and thousands of hours reading and working with clients I know how to turn things around and I know what works! I'm going to help you find your positive pants so you can achieve anything you want! ;-) I’ll come to you with a new episode every Monday and give you practical tips to improve your mindset for the positive and give you a deep understanding of why you do the things that you do. I’ll keep it short enough to be snackable so you can implement into your life and business straight away...hey I get it you’re busy, I've got you covered!" Head over to , https://www.franexcell.com/ follow @imfranexcell on Instagram or email [email protected] for more information. MEDICAL DISCLAIMER Any information or guidance we provide is not a substitute for the consultation, diagnosis, and/or medical treatment of your doctor or healthcare provider. You must not rely on any information or guidance we provide you with as an alternative to medical advice from your doctor or healthcare provide and we expressly disclaim all responsibility, and shall have no liability, for any damages, loss, injury, or liability whatsoever suffered by you or any third party as a result of your reliance on any information or guidance we provide you with. If you have any specific questions or concerns about any medical matter, you should consult your doctor or healthcare provider as soon as possible. If you think you may be suffering from any medical condition, you should seek immediate medical attention from your healthcare provider. Do not delay seeking medical advice, disregard medical advice or discontinue medical treatment because of information or guidance we provide you with. Nothing in this disclaimer will limit or exclude any liability that may not be limited or excluded by applicable law. Content Disclaimer The information contained above is provided for information purposes only. The contents of this podcast/audio are not intended to amount to advice and you should not rely on any of the contents of this podcast/audio. Professional advice should be obtained before taking or refraining from taking any action as a result of the contents of this podcast/audio Fran Excell disclaims all liability and responsibility arising from any reliance placed on any of the contents of this podcast/audio.