Ep. 48: How to Handle Being Judged

We always hear judgement, even from ourselves. So how do you, as an intuitive and a healer, handle judgement from others when all you do is just be yourself? In this hot topic, Heather shares the reason why feeling judged and being hurt is not your fault and how you can handle the haters and the frenemies around you. She will share the distinction between straight judgement and criticism from helpful feedback. You will also get to hear the five main reasons why people judge others, and the tips you can use to help yourself overcome the judgment. Heather will also share some great examples and personal experiences on former friends who were actually limiting her and themselves and passing judgement. If you are ready to hear some truth bombs about judgement, feedback, the beauty of community and being supported, then this episode is perfect for you.   Listen to the Episode Now: 0:27 What this episode is all about and how it shows in today’s society. 2:22 Why is judgement hard to understand for most people? 3:18 The difference between feedback and judgement. 5:48 How do you know what you need to be listening to and what you absolutely never allow. 6:16 Why it’s not your fault when you get hurt with what others think of you. 10:00 Why do you need to listen to what other people think? 12:27 5 reasons why people judge other people? 13:28 Reason #1: Competition. 13:52 Reason #2: Some people thrive in conflict. 14:25 Reason #3: Sense of insecurity. 14:45 Reason #4: Scarcity mindset. 15:27 Reason #5: Sense of inferiority. 16:36 Heather shares her personal experience on getting judged and being limited. 20:50 Five tips you can ask and do for yourself to help you deal with judgement. 22:52 #1: Where is the evidence? 23:43 #2: Do I respect this person’s opinion on this particular subject? 24:57 #3: Prioritize your self-respect above other people’s shallow approval. 26:01 #4: Care more about your purpose than you do about being liked. 29:11 #5 Realize that it’s about them, not about you.   Soul Stirring Quotes: “Judgement from others can range from very subtle to really extreme.” “Feedback is done with love, with your best intentions at heart, and with concern for your feelings.” “If you feel like you care too much from other people’s criticism, it is not your fault. We are social creatures and we are hardwired to care deeply.” “Right here, right now, drop the judgement that you keep upon yourself when your feelings are hurt.” “We are so quick to respond to the criticism that we never really take a moment of pause and ask yourself why that person is judging us.” “You don’t need to be listening to people you don’t respect and the people who do not have the education, authority or expertise.” “Prioritize your self-respect above other people’s shallow approval.” “Care more about your purpose, than you do about being liked.” “The judgement is about them, not about you.” “My wish for you is that you internalize what is offered to you in the spirit of love, community, and the international to see you thrive.” “You have everything inside you that you need to not internalize judgement, keep on moving, and be an example of what greatness looks like in the world.”   Links Mentioned: Join the Live Your Purpose, Launch Your Practice Workshop here: https://www.heatheraliceshea.com/intuitive-coach-launch     Join the Atmana Intuitive Coach Collective Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/atmanaintuitivecoachcollective