Ep. 33 How to Stop Caring About What Other People Think of You

Do you care too much about what people think of you? Are you scared to death when someone feels hate all over you and your work as an intuitive coach? The honest answer is probably yes... and that might just be a good thing! It is completely normal to care about what other people think of you. In fact, it’s important that you care what people think of you.  It creates social bonds and helps us grow collectively as a species. But when and how do you draw the line? When does caring about their opinion become toxic? How do you know when you are selling yourself out for the approval of others? That's what today's podcast is all about! In the podcast, Heather goes over three rules that help you find the balance between you caring about what people think but not letting disapproval from others debilitate you. You’ll get to listen to Heather’s three rules and how to use each one when other people are giving their opinions or advice on what you do. Heather also shares a beautiful and inspiring quote from Theodore Roosevelt, her awesome analogies, and a mantra that can help you overcome what people are thinking about you. If you are someone who wants to live your soul purpose without the fear of being judged or to finally not care about what other people think, then this podcast is perfect for you!   In This Episode: 0:40 Heather shares her thoughts about how to stop caring about what other people think - lookout for Heather’s "itchy" analogy! 3:53 Three important questions you need to be asking yourself. 6:00 Where do we draw the line in caring about what other people say? Heather shares her rules in filtering feedback and advice from other people. 7:50 First Rule - Do not take advice from people not doing better in life than you are. 9:48 Second Rule - Do not take advice or feedback from people who don’t love you or genuinely want the best for you. 13:11 Third Rule - Is that person in the arena and are they succeeding themselves in their own life? 16:15 The armchair quarterback analogy. 17:50 It is okay to make people care and not be concerned about it. 19:50 Heather’s mantra about caring about what others think about yourself. 21:00 Heather’s invitation to using the three rules when listening to others’ feedback.   Soul Stirring Quotes: “There are only two people in the world who genuinely don’t think what other people think- children under the age of three and psychopaths.” “It’s not actually bad to care, but where do we draw the line?” “Listen to people who are in a better position and really out there moving the needle at the game they are playing.” “A person who is sincerely committed to your growth and evolution as a human will be able to check their own uncomfortability when they see you shining.” “Hang out with people in the arena who are slinging it out there, because those people are going to understand you in a very deep way.” “If you are going to dare greatly, you have to develop a thick skin. No matter what you do, people are going to judge you.” “To admit that we want to be liked is the most honest and vulnerable thing in the world. It is what makes us human.” “Give yourself permission to care but not the permission to be concerned.”   Links Mentioned: The Atmana Intuitive Coach Collective: https://www.facebook.com/groups/atmanaintuitivecoachcollective