On Presence

A mama on a course of mine once expressed her utter heartbreak at the realization she had that, even in moments she'd reserved for her kids, she struggled to truly be present with and enjoy them.  Her overwhelm and her busy body and mind kept her from being fully there with them; even as they wanted to connect.  And there's a genuine sadness that comes with that experience. What we also miss in our disconnection from the present is the ability to "rejoice" in our kids.  How present or not we are will influence how our kids experience "being parented" by us.  Feeling unsafe in our bodies, contributes to this experience of being locked in the world of thoughts (so much so that we don't realize it's a product of this feeling - and a contributor to it!).  Our lack of presence can feel like "life passing us by", or as if we're living life from behind a veil, unable to make contact with our lives right here.  The roots of so much dis-ease and discontent lies in all the ways we can't be here. Right now.  

Podcast show notes can be found HERE. 

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Parenting can lead us to a threshold in life we hadn’t known before. We're bringing into the parenting dynamic with our kids the momentum of our previous experiences - our resources and resilience, as well as our disconnection and disembodiment due to trauma (individual, familial, cultural, historical & intergenerational).  Beyond the challenges we face to parent in ways we may not have been parented, there is a deep love for our children that wants to be expressed and known in presence with them. There's also a yearning in us to experience that deep love ourselves; to feel our power and to live authentically, just as we yearn to protect that for our kids, too. The urgency to heal what's still alive within us might come up with a force because of them, and yet it's ultimately a reclamation of our life force, vitality, joy, connection and creativity we're most hungry for. It’s sometimes a desire bold as love that fuels our courage to meet what we fear to face.