Feeling Misunderstood

How much do we suffer when we feel misunderstood by another person? And how does that experience drive our behavior to either make things better with them, bend over backwards to shape their perception of us so that their vision of us aligns with what we want them to see, OR do we make them wrong somehow so that we feel better?

We think we're afraid of what other people think and feel about us, but really what we're afraid of is how their perception of us will cause us to FEEL. We can fear the feeling itself,.  When we strip away all of the stories we create about ourselves and others, and the mental circus feeling misunderstood sets off, what are we left with? 

That's what we're exploring in this episode: how feeling misunderstood can drive our behavior, and how we can reframe the experience and learn to relate to it a different way through embodiment.  

Show notes can be found here. 

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Parenting can lead us to a threshold in life we hadn’t known before. We're bringing into the parenting dynamic with our kids the momentum of our previous experiences - our resources and resilience, as well as our disconnection and disembodiment due to trauma (individual, familial, cultural, historical & intergenerational).  Beyond the challenges we face to parent in ways we may not have been parented, there is a deep love for our children that wants to be expressed and known in presence with them. There's also a yearning in us to experience that deep love ourselves; to feel our power and to live authentically, just as we yearn to protect that for our kids, too. The urgency to heal what's still alive within us might come up with a force because of them, and yet it's ultimately a reclamation of our life force, vitality, joy, connection and creativity we're most hungry for. It’s sometimes a desire bold as love that fuels our courage to meet what we fear to face.