Conflict Resilience

For so many, conflict can be triggering. Notably, if we had poor models for conflict, or if conflict for us comes with a great deal of fear - of loss of relationship or repercussions if we engage with it.  This can cause us to fall into defensive stress responses when conflict comes up - so that, instead of engaging with another with confidence, we may shut down, fall into self doubt, or become overly aggressive. We don’t want to rid ourselves or the world of conflict.  Conflict is a great teacher. It can promote self and mutual understanding. It tells about what we want and what others want and in what direction in life we want to move. Conflict is part of life, but to allow it to be a creative force, we first need to disentangle our ideas about conflict from our earlier experiences with it, and increase our tolerance for it and resilience in it.  

To learn more about the "How to Fight Better - Creating the Conflict Container" workshop, visit the show notes here.  

 

 

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Parenting can lead us to a threshold in life we hadn’t known before. We're bringing into the parenting dynamic with our kids the momentum of our previous experiences - our resources and resilience, as well as our disconnection and disembodiment due to trauma (individual, familial, cultural, historical & intergenerational).  Beyond the challenges we face to parent in ways we may not have been parented, there is a deep love for our children that wants to be expressed and known in presence with them. There's also a yearning in us to experience that deep love ourselves; to feel our power and to live authentically, just as we yearn to protect that for our kids, too. The urgency to heal what's still alive within us might come up with a force because of them, and yet it's ultimately a reclamation of our life force, vitality, joy, connection and creativity we're most hungry for. It’s sometimes a desire bold as love that fuels our courage to meet what we fear to face.