#89 You Ask, We Answer - 6

YAWA time! You ask, we answer. We’re talking about the importance of a month-of planner, the difference between a day-of coordinator and a venue manager, and what to do when one partner’s family is complicated and small, and the other partner’s family is wonderful and big. Guest list creation brings out emotions sometimes, and we’ve heard from many couples about how stressful it can be. Let us help you! Big Takeaways A few random things we learned: Christy can’t handle having fake nails. Christy and Michelle agree that pubic hair sucks. And all our listeners need to become PATRONS ON OUR PATREON PAGE! In summary: 1 Email “Future Mother-in-Law Wants to be the Planner” Ask: How does an American bride get her French mother-in-law to see the light when it comes to hiring a wedding planner for her wedding in France? Answer: Try to sell it as a peace-of-mind thing. And that while you appreciate his mom's help and advice, you want to be able to bond with her without wedding planning defining your entire relationship. Your partner needs to agree with you and then help you by pitching it to his mom - as an opportunity to relax and enjoy the weeks leading up to the wedding. Especially since you have family traveling in and with all the planning from abroad. 2 Email “Venue Coordinator seems good. Do we still need our own day-of planner?” Ask: This dear bride has a nice venue picked out and they seem like a wedding-machine. The venue provides all rentals and handles all catering and provides a planner throughout the planning process as well as an on-site coordinator day-of. Does this bride still need a wedding planner? Answer: In short - maybe. Typically with a wedding-machine-venue like this, the day-of coordinator that they provide will suffice, if you are having a fairly simple wedding in terms of logistics. Keep in mind, though, that the coordinator works FOR THE VENUE, not you. 3 Email “Family Situation = SAD” Ask: How do I best support my fiance in guest list planning when his family situation makes him upset and sad? Answer: Totally agree that the guests at your wedding should be the most important people in your life as well as those you think will stick longer than the wedding date. Have you had a chance to listen to our "Episode #5 The Guest List"? Link below. 2 questions you two need to consider when culling the familial invites in order to keep your sanity: 1) Will this particular person upset him on his wedding day? Make trouble of any kind? If so, then I would strongly advise not inviting him/her 2) Would not inviting this person cause your fiance to feel strong regret after the wedding day is over? If so, then I would lean on inviting him/her. Links we referenced www.zola.com/bigwedding http://www.thebigweddingplanningpodcast.com/the-guest-list The Big Wedding Planning Podcast is... Hosted and produced by Michelle Martinez. Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Steph Altman of Mophonics On Instagram @thebigweddingplanningpodcast and be sure to use #planthatwedding when posting, so you can get our attention! Inviting you to become part of our Facebook Group! Join us and our amazing members. Just search for The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Community on Facebook. Easy to get in touch with. Email us at [email protected] or Call and leave a message at 415-723-1625 and you might hear your voice on an episode On Patreon. Become a member and with as little as $6.99 per month, you get 2 exclusive, ad-free episodes, + Zoom Happy Hour with Michelle and fellow patrons every month! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices