#209 Avoid The Comparison Trap!

Stop Playing the Comparison Game! The grass isn’t always greener and it’s really easy to go down the wedding rabbit hole online - this episode is about how to avoid the trappings of comparing your own wedding to all of your friends...and the entire platform of Pinterest. Let’s get real, people! Styled shoots are not weddings. And not everyone looks like a runway model. And your wedding should be a reflection of YOUR love - and a celebration of the big life decision you are making...it can look any way you want it to! Today we are joined by Margaux Fraise, wedding planner since 2011, lead planner and owner of Harmony Creative Studio. Click HERE to subscribe and unlock all of the amazingness: Ad-free, full episodes TBWPP Wedding Planning Resource Center Monthly Wedding Planning Happy Hours via Zoom with Michelle Bonus Episodes and more Big Takeaways Perfection is a myth! The best day ever is relative. Couples use social media to find wedding information and find messages from the old traditional guards and the new narrative with much more realistic viewpoints. It is important to know that the photos you see are lacking the full story and often set unrealistic expectations about what you can afford. Comparison is the thief of joy. When it comes to diving into social media, so many negative feelings can come along such as fear, jealousy, feelings of inferiority, FOMO and more! Avoid trend traps. Don’t be competitive when it comes to making wedding decisions. Once you hire your vendors, stop following the majority of that vendor type. After you have hired someone, you are still allowed to ask questions about their process. You are working together, and it’s important to be on the same page. Your guests are there to celebrate your love. They want an experience that is true to you as a couple! They want to have fun in your joy. Pinterest tips When you are first planning, pin your heart out. When you reach the time limit, step away from it for a couple of days. Then come back to it, delete 50% of the pins. Do this multiple times until you have about 30-50 images. Then share that info with your vendors. Once that is done, teach the algorithm the other things you are interested in so you don’t get bombarded with new wedding photos every time you open it up. Links We Referenced harmonycreativestudio.com instagram.com/harmonycreative zoom.us theknot.com apracticalwedding.com womangettingmarried.com The Big Wedding Planning Podcast is... Hosted and produced by Michelle Martinez. Music by Steph Altman of Mophonics On Instagram @thebigweddingplanningpodcast and be sure to use #planthatwedding when posting, so you can get our attention! Inviting you to become part of our Facebook Group! Join us and our amazing members. Just search for The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Community on Facebook. Easy to get in touch with. Email us at [email protected] or Call and leave a message at 415-723-1625 and you might hear your voice on an episode Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices