#158 You Ask, We Answer - 22

You asked and we are answering. This is our 22nd YAWA to date! ANNOUNCEMENT: We want to tell you about our partnership with HitchSwitch - the online name change website that makes changing your name easy peasy. Cut through annoying and time consuming red tape. Enjoy married life with one less thing to worry about and deal with. They’ll even help you get a new passport and then you can use it on that honeymoon you’re planning on going on next year! Enter promo code BIGWEDDING at checkout for 10% off any package. ASK I work 9 to 5 Monday through Friday when he works about a 3 to midnight most every day. We don't have a day off at the same time ever and it's kind of hard to push wedding planning till midnight or later. If you guys have any tips or tricks, please let me know. ASK We decided we were going to build the wedding from the ground up and we have our caterer and our caterer recommended a couple places we could visit in the desert cuz that's what we want to build our wedding. I'm just wondering how would it work that people would pay to upgrade to the to these rooms if we already, you know, like paid for them in advance. That just seems like a bit tacky to me to pay for in advance. What should I do? ASK So let's get right to it: my parents are divorced. All through my childhood, my dad helped establish in me the importance of self worth, vulnerability, and love, combined with the magic of self-expression. When I heard you guys talk about toasts during a wedding ceremony, it seemed so obvious to me that my dad should give one at ours. Even my expressly anti-toast fiance agrees! I've already asked my dad to give our one and only toast on the wedding day and he is SO EXCITED, and it suits our relationship perfectly. My fiance and I are thrilled to get to share that moment with him. Now comes the difficult part: I want to do something equally special to honor my stepdad during the wedding ceremony, and I'm fresh out of ideas. If anyone were the right person to walk me down the aisle, it would absolutely be him. The only problem is, I'm 98% sure I want to walk in alone. I am not a fan of the concept of being "given away" to my fiance from a feminist perspective. So ladies, I implore you: what on earth should I do? ASK Do you have any suggestions about appetizer stands or other ideas for cocktail hour food that could save us some money? Links We Mentioned https://zola.com/bigwedding for your free wedding website and $50 toward your registry https://www.hitchswitch.com promo code: BIGWEDDING for 10% off any package The Big Wedding Planning Podcast is... Hosted and produced by Michelle Martinez. Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Steph Altman of Mophonics On Instagram @thebigweddingplanningpodcast and be sure to use #planthatwedding when posting, so you can get our attention! Inviting you to become part of our Facebook Group! Join us and our amazing members. Just search for The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Community on Facebook. Easy to get in touch with. Email us at [email protected] or Call and leave a message at 415-723-1625 and you might hear your voice on an episode On Patreon. Become a member and with as little as $6.99 per month, you get 2 exclusive, ad-free episodes, + Zoom Happy Hour with Michelle and fellow patrons every month! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices