#135 You Ask, We Answer - 16

Question #1 Ask: The guest count is due a month out at the venue, but the RSVPs are barely due back by then. We may have a procrastinator bride on our hands! (Admittedly.) How to navigate? And is this listener’s wedding going to be awkwardly small? Question #2, Email - “Dress Regret” Ask: My fiance and I went and got wedding dresses a while back (yes, together). It was great, and we both ended up getting dresses right on that day (without going to other stores). I actually got the first dress I tried on, and I absolutely love it. Her dress is beautiful as well. In store, she loved it. We get home, and she's very upset. She's nervous it is way too sexy. It has a low cut, and she is worried about what people will think. She has a bigger chest than the women who model the dress, and so yes... Her boobs are on display. She loves the dress, just not sure about the boob part. We tried a few different things to make it less revealing... But she didn't like any of it (neither did we). She wants to go look at other dresses so we can exchange if something different catches her eye. Is there any way to make her feel more comfortable if she chooses to stick with the "sexy" dress? I'm not really sure what I should do here. Question #3, Email - “Parents helping pay and making decisions...” Ask: My parents are wonderful but live about 4 hours away and as the oldest daughter/granddaughter on both sides of my family, mine and my fiance's wedding is something that they are very much looking forward to. Since we've started the planning process, I feel like I have been struggling to figure out exactly what it is I want since my parents have very big opinions and have no reservations about voicing them. My fiance and I are very simple people and want a traditional wedding with our own personal style reflected (and we are still trying to figure that out). That being said, my parents are contributing to the wedding and so I feel like if there is something we don't have as strong of an opinion on, I kind of defer to them since they seem to care so much. Meanwhile, my fiance wants me to stand up for what I want (and I want to do that too!) but it's hard to do when we don't really know what it is that we want. Question #4, Email - “Cash registry wording” Ask: My fiancé and I have lived together for over a year and we have everything we need at home already, and quite frankly, neither of us want to deal with the clutter of storing more stuff. We have decided it would be a lot more meaningful for us to take a long, extended honeymoon traveling Europe for a few weeks and would like to only have a cash registry to help fund that trip. Personally I feel like being upfront and transparent with our guests about the intention for the fund is best, but my fiancé feels that it may seem greedy to have a registry for something “unnecessary” like an extended honeymoon to Europe. He would rather have a cash registry titled something along the lines of “life together” fund and be a bit more vague. What are your thoughts on this? Any suggestions or past experiences you could offer? We’re using Zola, which as you know, is incredible and so easy to navigate. Links we referenced https://www.zola.com/bigwedding The Big Wedding Planning Podcast is... Hosted and produced by Michelle Martinez. Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Steph Altman of Mophonics On Instagram @thebigweddingplanningpodcast and be sure to use #planthatwedding when posting, so you can get our attention! Inviting you to become part of our Facebook Group! Join us and our amazing members. Just search for The Big Wedding Planning Podcast Community on Facebook. Easy to get in touch with. Email us at [email protected] or Call and leave a message at 415-723-1625 and you might hear your voice on an episode On Patreon. Become a member and with as little as $6.99 per month, you get 2 exclusive, ad-free episodes, + Zoom Happy Hour with Michelle and fellow patrons every month! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices