54. People Pleasing & the Illusion of Control

If you’re a people-pleaser or overthinker it’s likely your relationship to control needs some attention. Most likely it’s backwards: you probably expend too much time & energy trying to control other people, and too little energy taking responsibility for yourself. As (recovering) people pleasers, perfectionists or over-thinkers we have to learn what is in our control and what is not.  Because when your relationship to control is backwards, you constantly feel like you’re the victim of others’ behavior. But instead of taking action to change your circumstances, you might simmer in resentment and righteously fantasize about how others “should be treating you differently.” Listen in to hear about how the illusion of controlling what you can't is disrupting peace, relationships and emotional health... and what you can do to feel empowered and in control again. Referenced in this episode: Boundaries Episode 10 Wanting Others to Change Episode 34 Learn more about coaching with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.coachwithkristen.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/coachwithkristen⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/kristen.odegaard.coaching/⁠⁠⁠⁠