SYSK Choice: The Best Advice is Not to Give Any & Overcoming Cognitive Dissonance

People say they are attracted to people who make them laugh and have a good sense of humor. But it is a bit more complicated than that. It is true that humor can bring people together, but it can also pull them apart. This episode begins with an explanation about humor and couples. https://www.theknot.com/content/couples-who-share-sense-of-humor-study When someone asks you for advice, you likely give it. After all, they asked. However, you may be better off by keeping quiet and withholding your advice, at least for a little while. That’s the suggestion of Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael has been named #1 Thought Leader in Coaching and he is considered one of the top coaches in the world. He is also author of a book called The Advice Trap: Be Humble, Stay Curious & Change the Way You Lead Forever (https://amzn.to/36WEUdY). Michael joins me to explain why you might want to be a little more stingy with your advice. We all tend to justify our mistakes and poor decisions to ourselves. When we do something wrong or that we regret, it doesn’t line up with our beliefs about how we are good and honest people. So we make excuses or we decide there were extenuating circumstances because we know we are not bad people – we are good people who made a mistake. This process is called cognitive dissidence. Everyone does it and it can get you into trouble according to social psychologist Carol Tavris author of the book Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts (https://amzn.to/2ADP2Mw). Listen as Carol joins me to discuss this fascinating topic. How do you cut your lawn – side to side? Front to back? Listen and I’ll tell you what the experts say which is the best way to mow. https://www.familyhandyman.com/landscaping/lawn-care/the-most-efficient-way-to-mow-the-grass/ PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! We really like The Jordan Harbinger Show! Check out https://jordanharbinger.com/start OR search for it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen!  Truebill is the smartest way to manage your finances. The average person saves $720 per year with Truebill. Get started today at https://Truebill.com/SYSK! Sign up for your FREE Novo business checking account RIGHT NOW at https://Novo.co/Something and you'll get access to over $5,000 in perks and discounts! With Avast One, https://avast.com you can confidently take control of your online world without worrying about viruses, phishing attacks, ransomware, hacking attempts, & other cybercrimes! Small Businesses are ready to thrive again and looking for resources to rise to the challenge. That’s why Dell Technologies has assembled an all-star lineup of podcasters (and we're one of them!) for the third year in a row to create a virtual conference to share advice and inspiration for Small Businesses. Search Dell Technologies Small Business Podference on Audacy.com, Spotify or Apple podcasts starting May 10th! With prices soaring at the pump, Discover has your back with cash back! Use the Discover Card & earn 5% cash back at Gas Stations and Target, now through June, when you activate. Get up to $75 cash back this quarter with Discover it® card. Learn more at https://discover.com/rewards If you're the type of person who's always thinking about new business ideas or wondering “What’s the next side hustle I should spin up?” — check out the podcast My First Million! Today is made for Thrill! Style, Power, Discovery, Adventure, however you do thrill, Nissan has a vehicle to make it happen at https://nissanusa.com Whether you’re going on a cross country trip or just up the street, please buckle up! Don’t risk it. And remember, Click It or Ticket. Brought to you by NHTSA. Use SheetzGo on the Sheetz app! Just open the app, scan your snacks, tap your payment method and go!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices