149 - Patriarchy Stress Disorder with Dr. Valerie Rein

After reading the book Patriarchy Stress Disorder by Dr. Valerie Rein, so much in my life made sense that had never made sense before. Things just clicked and the experience was truly transformational. And specifically in business, so much of what I saw in sales wasn’t designed with women in mind. With that knowledge, I recently shared a quote during a retreat from the book and it shifted the entire retreat and the lives of the women there. It resonated strongly with every attendee and I knew I needed to chat with Dr. Valerie Rein.   Dr. Valerie Rein is a psychologist, women’s mental health expert, and business consultant who has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the intergenerational trauma of oppression. She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Her bestselling book, “Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment” has been heralded by Amazon reviewers as “the most important body of literary work of our modern times” and “perhaps the most important book of the century for women.” Dr. Valerie is most passionate about the intersections of deep inner work and business. She is a sought-after speaker at conferences and companies committed to diversity and inclusion, leadership development, and unlocking people’s full potential.   In today’s powerful conversation, Dr. Valerie shares her background and how she came to discover Patriarchy Stress Disorder. She describes studies that prove through science that there is more to it than “just stress,” and through these scientific breakthroughs, she shares what can be done. The icing on the cake is that through this work, Dr. Valerie shares that every aspect of her life is better than anything she could have even previously imagined and it be that way for you, too.   Show Notes: [3:21] - Dr. Valerie’s personal development journey started early and was guided by the question, “What’s wrong with me?” [5:01] - She was living the life of her dreams, but she kept getting a message that there was something different for her. [6:04] - In addition to working in her private practice, she was pouring everything she was earning into a new business. No matter how hard she worked, nothing changed. [7:01] - Dr. Valerie wound up in the hospital with symptoms of a stroke, but was determined to be “just stress.” [8:04] - Despite years of therapy and personal development, Dr. Valerie could not crack the invisible wall. [9:01] - For thousands of years, women were oppressed and Dr. Valerie discovered how trauma response can be inherited. [10:27] - Our subconscious still recognizes success and wealth as unsafe. [12:14] - Once Dr. Valerie understood what the problem was, she was able to take her new business from no money to six figures in a year. [14:40] - What is the Cherry Blossom study from her book. [16:14] - This study demonstrates how trauma response is transmitted through genetics. [17:26] - Through her work, you can rewire your subconscious and trauma adaptations. [18:53] - There were many trauma adaptations that Dr. Valerie was experiencing and holding her back but she had no idea they were there. [20:21] - Currently, every aspect of her life has overshot her limited imagination. [23:16] - Through the healing journey, you can create your life from a place of alignment. [24:46] - “Prison guards” can come in the form of Imposter Syndrome, critical negative thoughts, and distractions.  [25:32] - Stress is created and driven by unprocessed trauma. [28:02] - How much time do you spend on average engaged with your prison guards? [30:35] - These issues are not character flaws. It is a part of us and not our fault. [31:52] - We work so hard but more can be accomplished and with a lot more joy. [33:14] - Elyse shares an...