045: Whose Approval Really Matters?
Have you ever tried so hard to win someone’s approval that you lost yourself? It’s hard to admit it but like me, I’m sure you can think of at least one area in your life where you've done this. How does it feel when you come to your senses and realize that you've wasted your time? Big ouch! It’s not that there’s anything inherently wrong with wanting to be approved of by others. After all, we are social beings living social lives in a social world! But things can go wrong when we’re chasing approval from those who are unable or unwilling to see the true value of who we are and what we bring to the table. The cost of chasing their approval is not just our sense of self but everything we have to offer. It often means we are not focused on creating with our gifts and making our unique contribution to the world. This is precisely what happened to P.T. Barnum in the musical The Greatest Showman and it was a tragedy! But there’s much we can learn from how he bounced back and got back to who he was and what he created. In this episode, you’ll learn 3 of these key lessons so that you can also get back to creating with your gifts and making the contribution that only you can make! About: The Reframe to Create podcast is hosted by Joy Spencer, an Executive Leadership and Storytelling Coach, Speaker, and Organizational Development Consultant working with professionals and leaders at all levels within organizations. Joy leverages over 17 years of experience she gained while working to champion change in social justice movements, including those related to global access to essential medicines and consumer advocacy for online privacy. This work required a dogged commitment to not merely challenging the status quo, but to reimagining and working towards creating an ideal future. It is this commitment to creating that has shaped Joy’s coaching philosophy and approach today. Using her signature C.R.E.A.T.E. framework, Joy guides her clients through a process to become incomparable in work so they can get paid to be themselves. Follow Joy on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/joy-spencer/