Episode 19. The Art of Self-Transformation - Steven D’Souza

Looking for ideas and inspiring stories to help you on your journey of self-transformation? Steven D'Souza talked with me about this, his career and much more on Episode 19 of the Reframe & Reset Your Career podcast. In this episode, we will learn about: Valuing our own story and achievements; Healthy Ego; The Illusion of Control; Viewing uncertainty as a place of opportunity; Making small experiments; Enjoying the journey; Reaching “the edge” and dealing with it; Moving between entrepreneurship and corporate life; His new book “Not Being”; Transitions such as changing jobs or relationships taking time; His relationship to time: Chronos versus Kairos; Finding people to bounce ideas off about your life and career; Not being solely validated by your work; and Momento mori – reflecting on the bigger picture. Steven is an educator, consultant and the author of four best-selling books. His new book “Not Being – The Art of Self-Transformation” was published recently. “Not Being” completes a trilogy of books which started with “Not Knowing” and was followed by “Not Doing”. Previously he ran his own company, Deeper Learning Ltd, a global executive education consultancy. He was also an Associate Professor of IE Business School, an Associate Fellow of Said Business School at the University of Oxford, and Leadership Consulting and Coaching for INSEAD.His clients have ranged from individuals and small charities to some of the world's top business schools and global companies, including Accenture, Barclays, BT and Goldman Sachs. He has also been recognised by www.Thinkers50.com on their 'Radar'​ and 'Thinker of the Month' for August 2015, which is dedicated to the leading management thinkers globally. And was placed on their RADAR list dedicated to the new generation of thinkers most likely to challenge management practice. HR Magazine named him one of the top 30 'Most Influential' thinkers in HR globally. Steven D'Souza talked with me about the illusion of control and said: "Just take an example from the book “Not Knowing”, we talked about the “Thinking Fast And Slow” work by Daniel Kahneman and he talks about over 100 unconscious biases from primacy bias, recency, confirmation bias etc. He says if you think you have reasons for your beliefs you're probably mistaken and an example from chess … to be a grandmaster generally you have very high cognitive abilities … and they can think roughly around 15 moves ahead. That's a lot of moves ahead to hold in in your mind but they play in a game with fixed and predictable rules. Whereas we're operating in a world now where people are acting rationally and irrationally, predictably and unpredictably, so it's impossible that one person can have all the answers or know."     Resources & People Mentioned The Road To Character - David Brooks Rumi Antonio Machado St Augustine The Alchemist - Paolo Coelho Thinking Fast And Slow - Daniel Kahneman Epictetus Think Again – Adam Grant Maria Rilke Bruce Lee Life Is In The Transitions – Bruce Feiler Let Your Life Speak – Parker Palmer Wisdom At Work – Chip Conley The Sunny Nihilist – Wendy Syfert The Serendipity Mindset - Christian Busch   Contact Steven https://stevendsouza.com/ https://www.amazon.co.uk/Steven-DSouza/e/B001JRWZ3S?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_3&qid=1632064964&sr=8-3   Reframe & Reset Your Career Resources & Contact Info YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/c/ReframeResetYourCareer  LinkedIn Page - https://www.linkedin.com/company/reframe-reset-your-career/?viewAsMember=true  E-mail - [email protected] It would be great to hear from you, the listeners, and your thoughts about the podcast, YouTube channel or just to say hello, it's always a pleasure to hear from you. I have had some great reviews but not had any way of responding. Thanks so much for your support and have a great week!   *Reframe & Reset Your Career, including any comments made by the host and guests, is for informati