N4L 061: "How We Did It" by Karl Subban and Scott Colby

From 30 years of coaching, teaching, and parenting, Karl Subban knows how to ignite potential in young people. He captures his strategies in How We Did It: The Subban Plan for Success in Hockey, School and Life. In the backyard and the schoolyard, Subban has spent his life encouraging kids to dream big, set goals, and accomplish great things. 00:15   Intro to Karl Subban – author, coach, teacher, and parent 00:55   Intro to the five accomplished Subban children 01:20   How Karl’s dreams morph through time (from cricket to basketball to teaching) 01:55   All three Subban boys play professional hockey 02:20   Back to school, hockey, and kids chasing dreams 03:10   Jamaican family of origin built on a foundation of hard work, giving, love, care, safety 04:35   Learns early about discipline, right and wrong 04:50   Hockey skills vs. life skills 05:15   Everyday parenting never ends, even when children are grown 05:50   Giving unconditional love, support, and time 06:15   Can’t influence kids without spending time with them 06:30   Discipline and boundaries part of raising a healthy child 06:50   “It takes a village” to raise a child, including resources such as time 08:15   Giving wings to kids’ dreams starts with potential 08:45   Coaches in Greater Toronto Hockey League 09:30   The three-legged stool of potential: dreams, belief, and action 10:10   Son P.K. Subban dreamt to play hockey (NFL Nashville Predators) 10:30   Belief vs. doubt requires reinforcing our belief system 11:00   “Designer” parenting (bulldozer, helicopter, or lawnmower) not the answer 11:30   What do kids say about their own motivation and ability to learn and grow? 12:00   Potential – our gift at birth; fulfilling potential – our gift to the world 12:50   Action activates the dream 13:55   Parents’ dreams vs. kids’ dreams (story of middle son Malcolm) 14:10   O.K. to have a dream for a child 14:45   “Clear the way, pave the way, and get out of the way!” 15:50   Malcolm wants to be a goalie, but Karl sees him as a hockey field player 16:40   Now, Malcolm plays goalie for the NHL Las Vegas Knights 17:15   Attributes family success to strong marriage & loving relationship with wife Maria 17:35   Raising five children a key ingredient to the Subbans' marital success 18:55   Karl and Maria agree on a problem but not on an approach 19:35   The “24-Hour Rule” 22:25  Most important life lessons: learning to respond to conflict, handling adversity  23:40   1 in 1000 boys who register to play hockey goes on to play an NHL game 23:55   How realistic is it to help kids chase dreams when odds are against them? 25:00   One dream leads to another; always keep dreaming 26:10   Subban girls pursue own dreams while helping brothers fulfill theirs 28:30   Children must be good at something in addition to school 29:30   Subban values practices more than games (winning) 29:55   You are what you practice; practice makes you better (in every area) 30:30   Every child needs a balance of pushing and inspiration 31:15   What Subban would do differently (as an educator) 32:05   Seeing children's potential influences how they see themselves 32:15   Ascribes to Carol Dweck’s Mindset approach to growth 32:55   Successful parenting also requires believing in children’s potential 34:15   Subban wants his kids to continually move on with dreams, not just play hockey 34:50   Making it professionally important, but so is "making it in life" 36:10   Recommendation: “Nights Up” (a parenting tip) BUY How We Did It: The Subban Plan for Success in Hockey, School and Life Connect with Nonfiction4Life! Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube  Website Special thanks… Music Credit Sound Editing Credit