The Lie of Arrival – Why You’ll Never ‘Get There’ (and That’s a Good Thing)

Episode Summary: Ever feel like you’re never where you’re supposed to be? Like no matter how much you accomplish, grow, or heal, you’re always looking ahead to the next thing? That’s because arrival—that moment where you finally feel like you’ve “made it”—doesn’t actually exist. In this episode, we’re breaking down: ✅ Why the idea of arrival is an illusion (and how it keeps you stuck) ✅ How your mind constantly moves the finish line, making it impossible to feel like you’re “there” ✅ The simple but powerful shift that helps you stop chasing and start experiencing life ✅ Three practical ways to shift out of proving and into being If you’ve ever felt like you’re running on an endless treadmill, chasing something just out of reach—this episode is for you. Key Takeaways: 🔹 Arrival is a myth. No one ever “gets there” because the mind keeps shifting where “there” is. 🔹 If you feel like you’re never enough, it’s not because you’re behind—it’s because you’re chasing an illusion. 🔹 The secret? Noticing the micro-moments of arrival that are already happening. 🔹 The path to fulfillment isn’t about reaching some final goal—it’s about actually being present for the journey. Practical Next Steps: 1️⃣ Catch yourself chasing arrival. When you think, “I’ll be happy when…”—pause. Ask, “Is this actually true?” 2️⃣ Celebrate micro-moments. Instead of waiting for a huge achievement, start recognizing when you’re already showing up as the person you want to be. 3️⃣ Ask yourself: What if I never ‘get there’? If nothing changed, could you still be content? How would you live differently if you weren’t chasing a finish line? 👉 Need help shifting out of the cycle of proving and into real fulfillment? I have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for those ready to go deeper. Let’s talk → sign up with this link here.   Let me know your thoughts! DM me on Instagram  @chantelallencoaching