E21: Faulty Core Beliefs
Show Notes Article (External): Printable CBT Thought RecordRecommended Listening (External): False Beliefs – ConneXions Podcast with Jodi HilderbrandtRecommended Reading: How to Change Your Negative Core Beliefs Episode Transcript Forgive typos and odd grammatical mistakes—this was transcribed using the magic of AI, and while it’s insanely awesome, it’s not perfect. [00:00:00] Welcome back to the I Hear You podcast. Today, we’re going deep. We’re talking about what psychologists and therapists refer to as false or faulty core beliefs. Faulty core beliefs are, well, exactly what they sound like. Beliefs we hold deep down inside ourselves at our core that are false. They are thoughts we believe about ourselves at the deepest level. [00:00:00] Often thoughts we’re too afraid to allow ourselves to consciously think about because they’re often deeply painful. And we’re talking about these today because they are often the underlying cause of much of our emotional pain. And they often influence our actions in our work, in our parenting, in our romantic relationships and much more. [00:00:45] And as with most anything in the mental and emotional worlds, freedom starts with recognizing and understanding. So today we’re going to talk about what faulty core beliefs are. We’re going to figure out where they come from. Typically. And of course, we’re going to discuss some common techniques from psychologists and therapists for healing them, for finding ways to recognize and get out of these faulty core beliefs and retrain positive, healthy beliefs. Let’s dive in. Introduction [00:01:36] Now, before I dive in, I want to let you know where I’m getting the bulk of today’s information from. These insights come from two primary sources. The first is from my therapist and friend, Jodi Hildebrandt. And the second is from psychologist Patrick Keelen. And while I’m relaying insight and direction from these two individuals, there is a wealth of information and research online if you’d like to go deeper. Obviously, these concepts have not come from just these two individuals, I simply like the way that they teach in the way that they relay them and I’ve used some of their teachings to help build out the outline for today’s episode. So with that, let’s dive into the lovely, lovely world of faulty core beliefs. What Are Faulty Core Beliefs? [00:02:19] OK. First question, what are faulty core beliefs? Well, I briefly touched on them in the intro, let’s dive a little deeper here. Faulty core beliefs are longstanding negative views about ourselves, others around us or the world. And they usually originate from some form of traumatic experience from our past. And mind you, these don’t have to be real heavy experiences such as abuse or death of a loved one. You know, some other quote unquote, major experience like that to have trauma, you know, as children, something as simple as being scolded by a parent or a teacher or being laughed at at school is not only frightening, that alone can be quite traumatic, because while we as adults might look back on that and judge our little selves and say, come on, that’s not that big of a deal, that shouldn’t be affecting me still. [00:03:15] It’s not uncommon because as kids, those what a lot of us adults look at is simple experiences are very scary, they’re terrifying because we as children are still learning how the world works. We’re still learning our place in the world and we are still trying to figure out if we’re good enough, how we measure up, you know, whether or not we’re going to be successful. Whether we’re even going to be safe in this big, crazy, often terrifying world. [00:03:46] And perhaps that’s a bit of a negative way to look at it. And I don’t mean to dive into that area ther