209. How To Be Awesome At Loving Your People Hard

Do your people really KNOW how you feel about them?  Like do they know how much you love them and why you love them - all of it?    One of the biggest lessons learned in the last month is how important it is to LOVE YOUR PEOPLE HARD.    It’s just so easy to get caught up in routine and the daily to do’s and before you know it, the day is done and it’s time to sleep then do it all over again.    Sometimes that means slowing down and other times it means setting rules so you don’t miss the good stuff.    Lots and lots of ideas of how you can show your people love on the daily.       Lindsay talks about the changes she’s made in her life since her husbands health scare.  One of the biggest- showing her people how much she loves them on the daily.    We only have so much energy in a day.  And since we know… where attention goes, energy flows, we have to be super careful about what we spend our physical and mental energy on. Because time spent worrying about things that don’t really matter, take away from time spent on the important stuff.   It’s so easy to be frustrated and distracted - both things that take us further from the goal.     -Here is how Lindsay adds habit triggers:   Like the podcast tips on habits in general - put things out or stack them!    Like put things in the tray in the kitchen or in the bedroom - to remember to do it.    OR do it RIGHT AFTER something else.  So it happens. This is a great way to actually change - and not stay the same.  It’s hard to change your ways especially if you have done the same things for a long time.  These are the BEST strategies for adding in more LOVE routines to your life.        -Here are the ways Lindsay does it:   10 minutes per kid each night before bed doing whatever it is that is best for them.    More physical!  Hugs, taps, squeezes.    And THOUGHTFUL things.    Eye contact - being present. Knowing they are important.    We need more human touch because we are all online so much!    Saying no or cancelling plans when you need it.    Show appreciation    Be spontaneous    Celebrate what makes them unique    Compliments    Thoughtful gifts    Celebrate them! Birthdays or wins    Do activities they like    Take good care of them when they are sick    Movie night    Hold hands    Do a chore for them - like getting gas or picking up prescription, dry cleaning. Something you wouldn’t do normally.    -Ways people sent in!   Bring coffee  Phone call, text, say I love you. 1 on 1 time with each person Date nights  Check in on them  Ordering something that will make life easier - new to go cup, key tile  Reflecting on the day at bedtime ex: I saw you were determined etc  Making coffee / tea each day  Buying favorite snacks/wine  Stop and hug my people, even when im busy Call/text when they’re going through a rough time. Offer my time to help. Random text when thinking of a friend  Lunch ones for kids and husband  Surprise fav drink or snack  Good night and good morning routines to start and end the day with love and gratitude  Pack healthy snack for office  Make them laugh, hide notes or a card  Listening to people  Being present when we are all together  Send texts to my teens wishing a good day and reminding I love you  Wellness check texts!  Watch their fav shoes instead of yours  Conversation cards on long trips - ask questions  Scratch hubby’s back while he brushes teeth  Be present - turn off phone  Cooking healthy food for them  Cook and bake for them Serve hubby dessert with night meds in his chair  I try to do 1 on 1 things that fills their love language even if it is not the way I normally show love.  Randomly send friends a Starbucks gift card Folding their laundry  Make sure they know how I feel on the regular  Always kiss my kids good night at every age Organize husbands supplements  My hubby tucks in my sheets at night so I’m extra comfortable    CHEERS to loving your people HARD!  

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The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.