Am I as bad as it sounds like I am? How to accept love even at the lower levels of health in our enneagram type. | Wednesday Q&A

Today I am answering the question: "I recently saw a post on Instagram about how the enneagram types manipulate others. Type 4s apparently manipulate "By being temperamental - and making others walk on eggshells." This scraped my heart to shreds since my pain point as a type 4 is that I believe I'm impossible to love due to my temperamental nature that makes people find me too volatile.  How do I reconcile this paradox? How do I address the shame this brings up because it's validation of my worst fears? " -- THANK YOU TO THIS WEEK’S PODCAST SPONSOR  BetterHelp is customized online therapy that offers video, phone and even live chat sessions with your therapist, so you don’t have to see anyone on camera if you don’t want to. It’s much more affordable than in-person therapy and you can be matched with a therapist in under 48 hours.  Enneagram & Coffee listeners get 10% off their first month at BetterHelp.com/EGRAM — Call/text your enneagram questions to (828) 338-9127 Grab a copy of my book at www.thehonestenneagram.com Check out my YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/sarajanecase Grab a copy of know your parenting personality https://amzn.to/37Zbh0l Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices