252. You Don’t Have to Be A “Good Girl” – Exploring the Cultural Impacts of Patriarchy with Elise Loehnen #FabulousFriends

Today’s amazing guest is Elise Loehnen, brilliant writer, editor, and podcast host of Pulling the Thread, a podcast focused on pulling apart the stories we tell about who we are and then putting those threads back together. Ultimately, Elise is a seeker and synthesizer pulling together wisdom, traditions, cultural history, and a deep knowledge of healing modalities to unlock new ways to contextualize who we are and why we're here.While she's also co-written 12 books, including five New York Times bestsellers, her first book under her own name is here, and it's called On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay To Be Good. The book weaves together history, memoir, and cultural criticism to explore the ways the patriarchy lands in our bodies and embeds itself in our consciousness and what we then police in ourselves and in each other.With awareness, we can begin to recognize these patterns of self restriction, break the story, and move ourselves and each other towards freedom and balance. It is such a pleasure to welcome my friend, the brilliant Elise Loehnen to the show.We also cover…00:01:00 — Reprogramming the “Good Girl” MentalityThe impetus for Elise writing this bookWhy do we think we aren’t “good”?Uncovering systemic misogyny in our subconsciousHow envy can be informationTo Be Magnetic by Lacy PhillipsHow the ”good girl” mentality has permeated our societyThe history of how the patriarchy came to be00:21:00 — Diving into the History of the 7 Deadly Sins & Debunking the Fear of LazinessRead: Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve RodskyLearning to reprogram embedded double standards in our culture and historyHistorical examples of women turning on each other like the witch huntsWhen and where the 7 deadly sins were createdSloth: a fear of laziness and how to support women in self-policing this instinctWhat happens when we can’t set and hold boundaries00:45:00 — Tuning into Our True Selves: How to Confront Cultural Pressures & NoiseHow greed can mislead us towards things we don’t really want or needThe wage gap between men and women & discrepancy in how we think about moneyThe Soul of Money by Lynne TwistHow pride keeps us smallSticking to your gifts and your dharmaGluttony: Why we don’t trust ourselves to not be out of control with foodThe problematic complexities of how lust is suppressed in women for self protectionResources:Website: eliseloehnen.comInstagram: @eliseloehnen Read: On Our Best Behavior, the Seven Deadly Sins and The Price Women Pay To Be Good by Elise LoehnenPodcast: Pulling the ThreadConnect with Kelly: