your caveman desires are standing in the way of TRUE happiness

Many who identify with symptoms of borderline personality disorder find themselves wanting to “get better.” This often leads to therapy (which is great), which leads to learning skills in therapeutic modalities like CBT or DBT (also great.) However, what is also common is that these very same people find that the “skills” aren’t enough. Maybe you’ve done all your research. You’ve been to therapy. You’ve learned the skills. But you’re still unhappy and stuck in a perpetual loop of chronic boredom and emptiness. The missing piece you’ve been looking for is taking the time to “get under the hood” of your BPD symptoms and digging into the “why” of your suffering. We’ve all been sold a lie about what happiness is. In this episode, we’ll untangle this complicated concept so that you can begin to see that you may have been looking at happiness all wrong your entire life. We can enter the process of true and lasting recovery only when we see clearly. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the core reason for our suffering: our biological need for the next dopamine fix—the never-ending chase of the next “desirable” people, person, or thing.Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode: ■ What is “Dukkha bias,” and how does it contributes to feeling like nothing is ever good enough■ BPD, boredom, and emptiness■ Why it feels so hard to be happy when living with the symptoms of borderline personality disorder■ How desire causes suffering and what you can do about it■ Understanding how human biology keeps us stuck in a cycle of never-ending needs and desires■ How to understand what happiness means to YOU Recommended resources: ■ Book - Designing the Mind: The Principles of Psychitecture by Ryan Bush■ YouTube - Interview with the author of Designing the Mind on the Modern Wisdom Podcast FULL ACCESS // CLICK HERE to unlock full future + past episodes and hundreds of hours of bonus content (including voice notes from me) as a Premium Submarine on Patreon. CONNECT WITH ME // CLICK HERE to email me, submit a voicemail, read my Substack, check out my book recommendation list on Amazon, follow me on IG, or listen to my sleep + meditation podcast Night Night Bitch (or visit backfromtheborderline.com) Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You can perform emotional alchemy and I will show you how.The idea of alchemy is to reduce something with fire – burning it down so that something new can rise from the ashes. You can do this with your personality, too. You’ve always had the power; you just didn’t know that. Now you do. Highly sensitive, emotional, and intuitive children are often impacted most severely by dysfunctional family dynamics, childhood emotional neglect, sexual abuse, grooming, generational trauma, and inherited toxic shame. As adults, these same children often find themselves with a disorder or dysfunction label, as mainstream psychiatry tries to convince them that the root of their suffering is due to a disordered personality or chemical imbalance. Our current medical model of mental health is quick to pathologize. Psychiatrists and therapists operating within this model often ask, “What’s wrong with you?” but rarely, “What *happened* to you?” Personalities are not cancerous tumors; psychological suffering cannot be accurately understood or treated through the lens of a purely medical model. We have to go deeper. And that's exactly what we do here on Back from the Borderline. A path toward healing exists, even though I know it can feel impossible when you’re looking up from rock bottom. Through working with and integrating the concepts we explore in each episode together, you’ll learn to:✧ Better regulate, name and process your emotions✧ Understand and reduce chronic feelings of emptiness✧ Confront and uproot your toxic shame✧ Put an end to recurring patterns of self-sabotage✧ Connect with your Higher Self✧ Break the cycle of generational family trauma✧ Set healthier boundaries with yourself and others✧ Recognize the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships✧ Heal from a chronic need to please and seek validation from othersTune in and prepare yourself to be standing in the ashes of the person you used to be. New episodes drop every Tuesday. As for me? I'm Mollie Adler. A disillusioned millennial, podcaster, writer, creative, existential thinker, obsessive researcher (huge nerd), and fellow f*cked up human desperately trying to find meaning in a society and culture that seems to be devoid of it. To read my Substack articles, access my Amazon book recommendation list, submit a voicemail, or contact me for collaborations, visit https://linktr.ee/backfromtheborderline. Anyone – even you – can come Back From the Borderline. 𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪  acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.