underrated recovery hacks to change the beliefs that are holding you back

The majority of people I speak to who are struggling with their "mental health symptoms" tell me how badly they want to change. They know their "toxic" patterns. They know the cycles they continue to repeat that continue to sabotage their change at peace and intimacy. They KNOW. But here's the thing: it's really f*cking hard to change your behavior. Let me tell you the biggest lesson I've learned in my journey so far: changing your beliefs = changing your behaviors. In today's episode, we'll challenge a lot of the deeply held beliefs that might be holding you back. I’ll discuss why my current social media break might become a permanent decision, how major social networks are transitioning from “social media” to “recommendation media,” and how this can affect our emotional regulation. I’ll also address a recent (somewhat critical) review on the podcast from someone who finds empowerment in the BPD label. This review inspired me to expand upon why I will continue to be outspoken regarding the (potentially) harmful and damaging impact of BPD diagnoses and how our cognitive biases can get in the way of our recovery process. Questions answered in this episode: ■ BPD and social media (does it worsen symptoms?) ■ Are mental health labels like “borderline personality disorder” helpful or unhelpful?■ Splitting in BPD, cognitive biases, and attachment to the BPD label■ Communication issues and BPD traits (how developing a “growth mindset” can be a game-changer in your recovery journey) ■ The connection between BPD traits and “obsessive” behaviors (i.e., constantly checking a partner’s social media)■ Tips for romantic relationships involving people with BPD traits and how to “start fresh.” Recommended resources:  ■ Article – “The End of Social Media and the Rise of Recommendation Media” by Michael Mignano■ Article – The people who want to get rid of the term ‘personality disorder’ by Emily Reynolds for Dazed Digital■ Book – Designing the Mind: The Principles of Psychitecture by Ryan Bush FULL ACCESS // CLICK HERE to unlock full future + past episodes and hundreds of hours of bonus content (including voice notes from me) as a Premium Submarine on Patreon. CONNECT WITH ME // CLICK HERE to email me, submit a voicemail, read my Substack, check out my book recommendation list on Amazon, follow me on IG, or listen to my sleep + meditation podcast Night Night Bitch (or visit backfromtheborderline.com) Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You can perform emotional alchemy and I will show you how.The idea of alchemy is to reduce something with fire – burning it down so that something new can rise from the ashes. You can do this with your personality, too. You’ve always had the power; you just didn’t know that. Now you do. Highly sensitive, emotional, and intuitive children are often impacted most severely by dysfunctional family dynamics, childhood emotional neglect, sexual abuse, grooming, generational trauma, and inherited toxic shame. As adults, these same children often find themselves with a disorder or dysfunction label, as mainstream psychiatry tries to convince them that the root of their suffering is due to a disordered personality or chemical imbalance. Our current medical model of mental health is quick to pathologize. Psychiatrists and therapists operating within this model often ask, “What’s wrong with you?” but rarely, “What *happened* to you?” Personalities are not cancerous tumors; psychological suffering cannot be accurately understood or treated through the lens of a purely medical model. We have to go deeper. And that's exactly what we do here on Back from the Borderline. A path toward healing exists, even though I know it can feel impossible when you’re looking up from rock bottom. Through working with and integrating the concepts we explore in each episode together, you’ll learn to:✧ Better regulate, name and process your emotions✧ Understand and reduce chronic feelings of emptiness✧ Confront and uproot your toxic shame✧ Put an end to recurring patterns of self-sabotage✧ Connect with your Higher Self✧ Break the cycle of generational family trauma✧ Set healthier boundaries with yourself and others✧ Recognize the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships✧ Heal from a chronic need to please and seek validation from othersTune in and prepare yourself to be standing in the ashes of the person you used to be. New episodes drop every Tuesday. As for me? I'm Mollie Adler. A disillusioned millennial, podcaster, writer, creative, existential thinker, obsessive researcher (huge nerd), and fellow f*cked up human desperately trying to find meaning in a society and culture that seems to be devoid of it. To read my Substack articles, access my Amazon book recommendation list, submit a voicemail, or contact me for collaborations, visit https://linktr.ee/backfromtheborderline. Anyone – even you – can come Back From the Borderline. 𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪  acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.