painful breakups: finding yourself after losing your favorite person

Marsha Linehan, creator of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) once said that people who struggle with emotion dysregulation are the psychological equivalent of third-degree burn patients. They simply have, so to speak, no emotional skin. Even the slightest touch or movement can create immense suffering.” Breakups are hard enough, but for those who identify with symptoms of various disorder and dysfunction labels like BPD, EUPD, cPTSD, ADHD, ASD, and more have no “emotional skin." Due to this, losing the love and companionship of their favorite person (or "FP") can leave them feeling such unbearable pain that life itself is too much to bear. Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode:■ Why are breakups” so hard?■ How to deal with a breakup when you identify with symptoms of BPD, EUPD, cPTSD, ADHD, ASD (or any other label that struggles with emotion dysregulation)■ How to get over a breakup when you struggle with emotion dysregulation (how to get over an “FP” or favorite person)■ How does someone who struggles with emotion dysregulation feel after a breakup?■ Dealing with “breakup regret” when you experience emotion dysregulation■ Can someone who identifies with traits of what is known as borderline personality disorder even HAVE a healthy relationship?■ How to deal with symptoms of emotion dysregulation and stop them ruining/sabotaging future relationships■ How does emotion dysregulation affect relationships and breakups FULL ACCESS // CLICK HERE to unlock full future + past episodes and hundreds of hours of bonus content (including voice notes from me) as a Premium Submarine on Patreon. CONNECT WITH ME // CLICK HERE to email me, submit a voicemail, read my Substack, check out my book recommendation list on Amazon, follow me on IG, or listen to my sleep + meditation podcast Night Night Bitch (or visit backfromtheborderline.com) Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You can perform emotional alchemy and I will show you how.The idea of alchemy is to reduce something with fire – burning it down so that something new can rise from the ashes. You can do this with your personality, too. You’ve always had the power; you just didn’t know that. Now you do. Highly sensitive, emotional, and intuitive children are often impacted most severely by dysfunctional family dynamics, childhood emotional neglect, sexual abuse, grooming, generational trauma, and inherited toxic shame. As adults, these same children often find themselves with a disorder or dysfunction label, as mainstream psychiatry tries to convince them that the root of their suffering is due to a disordered personality or chemical imbalance. Our current medical model of mental health is quick to pathologize. Psychiatrists and therapists operating within this model often ask, “What’s wrong with you?” but rarely, “What *happened* to you?” Personalities are not cancerous tumors; psychological suffering cannot be accurately understood or treated through the lens of a purely medical model. We have to go deeper. And that's exactly what we do here on Back from the Borderline. A path toward healing exists, even though I know it can feel impossible when you’re looking up from rock bottom. Through working with and integrating the concepts we explore in each episode together, you’ll learn to:✧ Better regulate, name and process your emotions✧ Understand and reduce chronic feelings of emptiness✧ Confront and uproot your toxic shame✧ Put an end to recurring patterns of self-sabotage✧ Connect with your Higher Self✧ Break the cycle of generational family trauma✧ Set healthier boundaries with yourself and others✧ Recognize the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships✧ Heal from a chronic need to please and seek validation from othersTune in and prepare yourself to be standing in the ashes of the person you used to be. New episodes drop every Tuesday. As for me? I'm Mollie Adler. A disillusioned millennial, podcaster, writer, creative, existential thinker, obsessive researcher (huge nerd), and fellow f*cked up human desperately trying to find meaning in a society and culture that seems to be devoid of it. To read my Substack articles, access my Amazon book recommendation list, submit a voicemail, or contact me for collaborations, visit https://linktr.ee/backfromtheborderline. Anyone – even you – can come Back From the Borderline. 𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪  acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.