how to better understand a loved one who displays symptoms of borderline personality disorder

Coping with traits of borderline personality disorder can be exhausting for both the person experiencing them and those who love them. Splitting episodes, black and white thinking, and extreme emotional dysregulation can make it difficult to form and nurture intimate relationships. Many online resources advise friends and loved ones of those with BPD (EUPD) traits to cut ties or avoid relationships with these individuals altogether – citing that “borderlines” are toxic and incapable of love. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Can BPD traits and trauma make navigating intimacy? Sure. There’s no denying that. However, if both the person who identifies with BPD and their loved one(s) are open to developing deeper senses of self-awareness and are willing to learn new skills, deep and meaningful relationships can be nurtured. At the beginning of my recovery journey, I wished there was more content like this so that I could listen to it with my partner and family. It can be tough to put your intense feelings into words. I understand. I’ve been there. I hope this episode can become a helpful (and healing) bridge for individuals who identify with BPD and their loved ones. Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode:■ Understanding how childhood trauma can trigger borderline personality disorder and how this may have meant that your loved one did not learn the skills to self-soothe and become ultra-sensitive to rejection■ Recognizing BPD triggers and providing validation (how not to get caught up in the “what’s” and “why’s” and instead learn to help your loved one feel SAFE)■ Utilizing “behavior chain analysis” skills from DBT to help your loved one get into “wise mind”■ Developing “crisis plans” to use during BPD episodes and learning to “assess vulnerabilities” to prevent episodes from happening in the first place■ Understanding the role of the “inner critic” in BPD (dealing with self-hatred and shame) ■ The role family and loved ones can play in therapy and treatment for BPD Recommended resources: ■ Supporting Loved One with BPD: Quickstart Guide (full YouTube video by clinical psychotherapist Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes)■ Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes’ website: https://www.docsnipes.com/ FULL ACCESS // CLICK HERE to unlock full future + past episodes and hundreds of hours of bonus content (including voice notes from me) as a Premium Submarine on Patreon. CONNECT WITH ME // CLICK HERE to email me, submit a voicemail, read my Substack, check out my book recommendation list on Amazon, follow me on IG, or listen to my sleep + meditation podcast Night Night Bitch (or visit backfromtheborderline.com) Disclaimer: The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You can perform emotional alchemy and I will show you how.The idea of alchemy is to reduce something with fire – burning it down so that something new can rise from the ashes. You can do this with your personality, too. You’ve always had the power; you just didn’t know that. Now you do. Highly sensitive, emotional, and intuitive children are often impacted most severely by dysfunctional family dynamics, childhood emotional neglect, sexual abuse, grooming, generational trauma, and inherited toxic shame. As adults, these same children often find themselves with a disorder or dysfunction label, as mainstream psychiatry tries to convince them that the root of their suffering is due to a disordered personality or chemical imbalance. Our current medical model of mental health is quick to pathologize. Psychiatrists and therapists operating within this model often ask, “What’s wrong with you?” but rarely, “What *happened* to you?” Personalities are not cancerous tumors; psychological suffering cannot be accurately understood or treated through the lens of a purely medical model. We have to go deeper. And that's exactly what we do here on Back from the Borderline. A path toward healing exists, even though I know it can feel impossible when you’re looking up from rock bottom. Through working with and integrating the concepts we explore in each episode together, you’ll learn to:✧ Better regulate, name and process your emotions✧ Understand and reduce chronic feelings of emptiness✧ Confront and uproot your toxic shame✧ Put an end to recurring patterns of self-sabotage✧ Connect with your Higher Self✧ Break the cycle of generational family trauma✧ Set healthier boundaries with yourself and others✧ Recognize the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships✧ Heal from a chronic need to please and seek validation from othersTune in and prepare yourself to be standing in the ashes of the person you used to be. New episodes drop every Tuesday. As for me? I'm Mollie Adler. A disillusioned millennial, podcaster, writer, creative, existential thinker, obsessive researcher (huge nerd), and fellow f*cked up human desperately trying to find meaning in a society and culture that seems to be devoid of it. To read my Substack articles, access my Amazon book recommendation list, submit a voicemail, or contact me for collaborations, visit https://linktr.ee/backfromtheborderline. Anyone – even you – can come Back From the Borderline. 𓆩ᥫ᭡𓆪  acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.