#226 Willpower, lifestyle, habits, behaviour change & power of self talk & awareness/Dr Gary Mendoza

Twitter @drgarymend IG @drgarymendoza  Stages Of Change @transformxruby  Q: What are the barriers to change? Someone thinks they are ready for change Habits don’t die It’s a slow process  Little things at a time They feel its not worth their time And when life is crazy or work is crazy, (it always is and we kid ourselves saying its going to calm down)  Our brain loves easy  Yet we try to complicate things more because SM makes it look fancy And we can do this with the way we approach food, always needing a whole new thing every single day instead of having a routine, or something on autopilot PULL goal FEEL like BE LIKE “goal” “time” Social media doesn’t have time It has now now now or you are behind Results should be a weekly metric like fuck off haha  “consciously” Understanding yourself  Q: Why does self talk often stop change? Relapse is part of the process  Clients will often view a relapse as a failure and use it as a reason to give up on the programme. Part of the reason for this is the trainers/coach’s failure to explain that relapse is actually an important part of the overall process. It may also be the case that the client has set up unrealistic expectations as to what they can achieve, this is known as ‘barrier underestimation’. Lower your expectations at the start - how did that work for you before? Right back to the start? FEEDBACK not failure. Learn from it It is important to temper a client’s initial high expectation at the start of a programme with a dose of reality. They may have tried to get fit/lose weight before without too much success, but they quickly forget these failed attempts. Get them to think about what has happened in the past and draw upon these events. They will often see these past experiences as evidence of failure so if you can get them to look on them as feedback and learn from them it will make this next attempt more likely to succeed. Also going forward they will now have a more realistic outlook and not view the next relapse as a reason to quit. ___________________________________________ Start without too high of an expectation that the only other option is letting yourself down. Dip your toes in and take it slow - view it as a lifestyle thing.