How Social Media Is Messing Up Your Love Life

Listener Letter - This Is What Decentering Men Looks Like (05:41) So, I've been seeing this girl for 2 months. We're hitting it off really well. I'm 30+ and this is the first time in a long long time I think we could have a future together. The problem is I'm only seeing her like once every 3-4 weeks. We've seen each other 3 times by now and last time also had s*x. Everything is there, the connection, the intimacy, the attraction... I really like her. But she's currently in therapy and admits that maybe she shouldn't have started dating yet but wasn't expecting to find someone she'd bond with like me so quickly. Next to therapy (2 days a week) she still works (3 days a week), which I respect a lot. But in the weekends her (social) battery has run out and she's not able to see anyone. This will probably go on for more than a year and I don't know what to do... Also when it comes to emotions, I wear my heart on my sleeve (INFP) and she's the opposite (INTP). This causes some problems too sometimes but nothing big. Our communication is also very open and we can talk about everything. But sometimes she disconnects from the world for 2 days. I can understand but it makes me feel like I'm just a tool to use whenever she's up for it. Don't get me wrong, I want to support her in the process of therapy, I've been there myself. But sometimes it's hard. I want to settle and that's not going to happen for the coming year(s). One day I'm prepared to wait that long and the next day I'm not. It's weird to ask this to you, I have never done that before because I'm a very intuitive person. But what would you do? Listener Letter - Instagram Dating Dillema (15:23) Hello, I'm interested in your opinion. A week ago I unfollowed my ex from Instagram. I still have feelings for him, we ended up on good terms but he doesn't seem to be doing anything about reaching out to me. Actually he did reach out a few times in these few years, but nothing significant in my opinion. And so it ended that I unfollowed him and removed him from my followers. What do you think about my action? (and what he might be thinking) Basically, I really don't know how I feel about this, like it's him watching all my activities and stories all the time but never reached out in a serious way. So in closure, I thought okay...if you don't want anything serious why would I give you the pleasure of knowing what is going on in my life right now. ⁠He's Intimidated By Her Social Media Presence⁠ (25:33)⁠ On a second date, a man grills Tiktoker StaceyDee about her social media presence. We discuss ways to avoid these kinds of awkward conversations and how much information you should provide in the first few dates. Submit Your Dating Questions Connect With Us Podcast Instagram Christan’s Instagram & Threads @thechristanm Tiktok Youtube